Sounds like you are heading in the right direction! Prayer really helps me too. One day when I was struggling as to what do with our marriage, I prayed then opened my Bible to any old section. It opened to a section on Saul, and I thought great, this is just about battle, it doesn't fit my situation. Then I read it. It was about Saul's son Jonathon deliberatley disobeying an oath because it didn't make sense for his or his army's welfare......I took this to mean that sometimes oaths need to be broken in order to save someone. I was struggling with whether or not it was OK to break my marriage vows and this helped to give me a different perspective. God does not want us to suffer.