Originally Posted by
celticghirl 
Is there any point in telling an alcoholic how you feel?
Toby Rice Drews-trying to reason with an active
alcoholic is like trying to reason with an
insane person. Or words to that effect.
In the same book, she observes that alcoholism is a
primary mental illness.
That being said, just we do/did. Explain ourselves, point out the error of their ways, etc, etc, etc.
I can remember telling my ex on more than one occasion that she was probably as tired or hearing it as I was saying it, and it was true, for me at least.
There is a sticky here about talking with an alcoholic/addict, paraphrasing, it points out how the addiction is so central to their being, they view any attempt at reasoning as an attack. I think that they do know, I know I did long before I stopped drinking.
Say it
once.