One other topic I would like to gently approach here too is to be cautious when approaching your AH about this subject.
In my experience I have heard several women share their spouses became unreasonable when they tried to talk to them about leaving.
Just throwing out a few suggestions ~ if you have children - maybe try to talk about it when the kids aren't home; let a trusted friend no ahead of time that y'all are going to discuss this - allot a certain amount of time, if that friend hasn't talked to you in that time frame - have her call to make sure you are ok? (set up a code ahead of time); position yourself where you can exit the home if you need to, have your purse, keys & cell phone easily accessable.
I know to some this may seem to be over reacting - but we have all seen stories of the calmest people reacting violently to shocking news.
From my perspective - it's better to be safe and take precautions than to be sorry.
Wishing you the best,
PINK HUGS,
Rita