l2l, I am sorry that you have had a tough life. It sounds like you have had it really bad and I am very proud of you for seeking help and offering advice (within this forum) to others.
Ultimately we are all going to have different views on this subject. I feel that friends help friends. I agree that she needs help. What is that quote "Give a man a fish he eats for a day. Teach a man a fish he eats for life.". In this case, I don't see why telling her about the resources available and explaining just what he will and will not do for her, is so wild and crazy. In this case, a drunk ride is a fish for a day. A list of resources and maybe a joint trip to an AA meeting is fish for life.
I think this guy has been pretty wonderful and I want him to close out this situation on a high note.
We are just going to have to agree to disagree.