Originally Posted by
Chelle3 
He agreed, he has no remorse and shows no interest in the relationship anyway, any working on the relationship was one-sided. All he wants to do is drink and post on sports gambling forums. I offered to take him to a condo on the beach for his b'day-he said no. I offered to watch a movie with him last night, he said no. I finally realized he just wants to be left alone in his bubble of beer, cigarettes and computer.
It's hard when you realize that their addiction(s) is the most important thing to them. When I came to that realization I was SO hurt. Addiction becomes a very selfish thing and although the person might not be like that, if they didn't have the disease, this is what you get when they do. Tough wakeup call, but once you've accepted as one of the things that you CANNOT change, then at least you know where things stand from here. All the best to you in holding your ground!