whether this man is sober or drunk, he's hurtful and disrespectful to you. You've told him his behavior bothers you and he deliberately still does it? you've asked him to leave and he *won't*?
what is he teaching his child by his behavior....he lives with you, sleeps with you and berates you calling you "the enemy"?
I think you need to ask yourself WHY you think you can fix something that just isn't there...obviously he is not interested in fixing the relationship and you are making excuses for his bad behavior by asking about "early recovery"?
nope, i never acted that way towards anyone, drunk or sober.