Originally Posted by LaTeeDa

In defense of Harville Hendrix (who I happen to think is brilliant), this is not "advice" he is giving. It is analysis based on many years of counseling couples. He's not telling anyone to go find someone to resolve their unfinished business. He is saying we all do this to some extent, and it is not a conscious choice for the most part. His books attempt to bring it to the conscious level, so that we can see why we are attracted to the people we are attracted to, and recognize how our psyche is searching for some kind of resolution.

L