When I broke up with my exA I had people who congratulated me. I trusted that, it helped me in some of my darkest moments. This, too, Cyranoak, is helpful, even though it's sad to read how unhappy you are. I have yet to meet a person who has told me that they thought they would have been happier staying with their A, whether or not they are with them today.
I am single on Valentines Day for the first time in 24 years. In that time I've had 4 relationships, each of them lonely in their own way, each relationship getting significantly shorter than the one before it. I am alone, and not lonely, for the first time in my life.
Wow. Wish I'd known that sooner, but am so, so grateful that I know it now
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and story, Cyranoak.
Hugs,
posie