I have heard it said that if people who grew up in dysfunctional homes meet a normal , well adjusted person, they find that boring.
i used to be attracted to those wild, dysfunctional men, and got burned a lot. I learned why it all was happening in ACA meetings. (adult children of alcoholics)
now, after many years, those same characteristics that once attracted me repulse me, and the healthy ones still bore me, so I am scr@#*d.
Cyranoak, your post made me sad . I hear your pain.
hugs,
chicory