Hi Lonesome,
I’ve found that talking, begging, pleading or trying to rationalize with my AW didn’t work.
Neither did looking for “the bottle” or trying any other manipulative behavior.
What I have done is to physically separate my son and I from my AW, I will talk or e-mail with her so long as our discourse remains positive.
We can only work on ourselves, protect our children and hope, pray, and cuss the alcoholic…just don’t let the kids hear the cussin’.
In the end you’ll either put up with her behavior or you won’t.
Good luck man!