Originally Posted by
lc1972 
I will say that your post is very similar to conversations I have had also. The thing is addicts in my experience cannot seem to deal with communication, addicts want to be heard but do not want to hear you. They cope by going out and using whatever their DOC is.
Agreed. Any attempt to talk with XABF about anything other than how I was going to help him resulted in blameshifting, verbal abuse, and more alcohol down his throat.
You did nothing wrong by being honest and blunt. The more "polite" or "friendly" you are to an alcoholic, the more they view it as an invitation to shift the blame back to you. He may not like what you have to say, but I'm sure you felt better for saying it!
