lc1972 beat me to the 3C's. *Grins*
An alcoholic will do whatever he can to surround himself with people who will support his drinking, because he does not want to face the problem. He will use manipulation, guilt, and anything else he can think of to avoid facing his addiction.
You cannot save him. You cannot cure him. You cannot stop him from drinking unless he truly wants to stop. (Mine has been talking about quitting drinking for 2 years, and even dabbled in a few of his own self-remedies to cut down and cut back and stop drinking, but he doesn't have a real program, he's not committed to the outpatient program he's in now, and even if he doesn't drink ever again he's still got the 'isms' - he'll be what this forum calls a "dry drunk.")
Find an Al-Anon meeting near you, so you can meet people face to face who are having similar problems. You don't have to talk at a meeting, just listen. You don't have to worry about crying at a meeting, they bring plenty of tissues because everyone cries at some point.
And keep posting and reading here, because it does help. This is not about helping the alcoholic, this is about helping you regain the wonderful life you deserve, in whatever way works best for you. Sometimes seeing us work a program does inspire the alcoholic to get better, sometimes it doesn't, but either way it helps YOU get better.
(((HUGS)))
You're NOT alone.