>If you don't work the reasons for your drinking, you'll never recover.
Like you, I thought I had merely acquired a dependence on alcohol. Struggled in my early recovery...constantly fighting the obsession to drink. But I never looked deeper than thinking I was hooked to booze. A couple months go by, I was making great progress and started to encounter a number of situations that made me want to drink. Triggers. Not "happy hour" reasons or beer-with-football excuses. No, I found that certain social situations caused me much discomfort, and I wanted to drown those bad feelings in beer. Another time I was in the same room as someone I had had issues with. Again, the discomfort made me want to drink. Another time I got enraged at my sister's boyfriend and boiled for hours. Wanted a drink the whole time. Shame, grief, anger, fear. Reasons I drank. Reasons I became addicted to alcohol. Because it worked at numbing me to emotions I hadn't learned to deal with.
Now I have to work through those reasons...
That's what I think the person was PM'ing you about.