The man in my life, my exabf, has been in recovery for 1 year. He is doing very well. We have just begun to see one another after 6 months of no contact.
Prior to that 6 months, we were seeing one another, he was not drinking, he was going to meetings, but he was tense, and argumentative, and manipulative, and controlling...in my opinion, worse than anything he was like when drinking even.
So I stepped away, and went no contact for 6 months. What I realize now, and what I have shared with him, is that I was uncomfortable with his behavior, as I would be with anyone who behaved that way, whether they were an alcoholic or not. I just did not want to spend my time with someone like that. It was not healthy for me.
Take care of yourself, by reading, and learning, and sharing here and at al anon...one of my favorite sayings around here is: when in doubt, do nothing. More will be revealed. It always is.
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