Welcome to the SR family!
Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed. We are here to support you, encourage you and share our hope with you.
You are doing the right thing in taking care of yourself and your daughter. You are also allowing your wife the opportunity to take responsibility for her own life. Good on you!
The folks here helped me learn to accept the three C's of addiction while dealing with my loved one. They are:
I did not CAUSE the addiction
I can not CONTROL the addiction
I will not CURE the addiction
The responsibility belongs with the alcoholic.
There is lots of wisdom in the permanent (sticky) posts at the tops of the forum pages. This is one of my favorites:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html