They always blame it on someone else. my exab blames everyone for his addiction but himself,he blames it on his parents.he blames it on me when i argue with him alot( we argue because he is using so it doesnt make any sense) aside than the addiction,he blames everything else on me,like when he cheats he says you are the reason i was with another woman,its because u're neglecting me!!!!! i went so far to please,take care and love him , never neglected him. i used to fall down apart blaming myself for everything,beleiving him i was the one to blame,but now i know better,i didnt cause it,i cant cure it,i cant control it. dont blame urself. you might be in love with him now but as time goes by ur feelings will change,u might still love him,you might still need the relationship but you will not want it,you will not want all the pain that comes with it. take care of you.