O yes, when we wish to force there bottom with dreams of them suffering enough consequences to once and for all make the necessary changes that will bring about the life we wish to share with them which also brings us peace and happiness..................we will often discover (the hard way) that they havent quite reached it YET......they still have another bottom.
I've learned to be careful what you wish for!
Our resentments make those wishful thoughts of dui's and job losses and forcing their bottoms seem wonderful but the reality of active addiction is that all of those things only gives them more Ill justifications to keep using/drinking more in the short term and a good back pocket pull it out anytime down the road excuse to pick up again.
It's much easier recognizing and accepting my own bottom then it is to sit around waiting for theirs..