DonnaJL...I am new here too!!! I can't help but notice in your post that you seem to think that it is your responsibility to fix him. I felt that way too. Until I discovered on SR that I am codependent and need to take care of myself. You cannot stop him from drinking. I wish there was a button to push to make them stop but there isn't. Anyway, you have come to the right place! This website is the best thing that ever happened to me. Hands down.