Originally Posted by
mfrankl6 
My personal comment is I am just tired. Tired of being the sympathetic one. Tired of being the responsible one. Tired of being told I am sorry. My wife is an alcoholic and there is nothing I can do about.
Get thee to an AlAnon group. You will find people, just like you, who have struggled with the alcoholic in their lives and have come to find peace in accepting that they didn't cause it, they can't control it, and they can't change it. They learned that they can love the person without loving the disease and that they can establish boundaries. They developed spiritual tools, in the same manner as alcoholics do, through the use of the very same Twelve Steps and traditions. If you're a reader, check out,
"The Lois Wilson Story: When Love Is Not Enough" by William G Borchert 2008. You can also find help at Friends and Family boards on this and other forums. Or you can do nothing.