I think its a great picture....and you and Mr. Dev are loving, wonderful people to be raising this sweet little girl. She has a normal chance with life and thats what she deserves. Hopefully your son does find his way and gets the help he needs. I'm feeling like you and this codependant has decided to retire. The only way I can do that in a nice way is "no more contact" with my son till he's in a long term rehab with some major councelling.