I agree with you, and I need to carefully plan my departure since I do have a pretty stable environment at our house with our daughter. My husband never raised his fingers on me, just his voice and he does it when our daughter is not home. I don't want to be an enabler, but I don't want to always suspect either. I feel like all he tells me are all lies, and there are just times when he shows me proofs that they could be true. I just don't want to hang on to try to find out the truth. I know the truth, and I just want to learn to let go and really map out my departure. How did those people who relied on the other spouse's income survive? Tips please.