You aren't alone, Roslyn. I JUST recently came clean with my significant other. I thought it would be the end of us. I thought shame would ring through the house. You know what? It didn't. Anyone who truly loves us will find a way to be supportive. They'll want us to be better, not hide. They'll want us to get help, not suffer in silence. They'll want us to live, not exist.
Good luck. Maybe you can do it alone and maybe you'll find that you can't. I know I tried it alone over and over and over again without success. This time I'm taking steps to get the support I need. I hope it makes the difference.