You know how AA talks about "One Day At A Time"?
Well, that's true for those of us on the friends & family side, too.
Frankly, there have been days when one day at a time has been too much for me to handle, and I've taken it hour by hour, or ten minutes by ten minutes.
Someone gave me advice much in the vein of what barb dwyer was saying: Not only do you not have to plan the rest of your life right now, you can't. So do what's right in front of you: Make your bed. Do your dishes. Make yourself a cup of tea. Watch a movie. Read a book. Go for a walk. And deal with the rest of life as it comes. Big hugs to you.