Originally Posted by
cutelittlewife 
I told him I felt like I was giving more than I was getting and the 'I didn't ask you' just doesn't seem right.
This is huge. It may not seem so, but it is. This is the kind of thing I was getting at. This is a door to the world of answers for you.
It's not about 'giving him another chance,' or any of that. It's about looking deep within and figuring out what you want. And by that I mean who you are and what you want that doesn't involve him or anyone else. Why do you suppose you give so much without being asked? Why do you suppose you can't describe what you love about him?
In my case, it was because my identity was completely dependent on my relationships. I was a wife, mother, employee, but who was I? I had let myself become a 'piece' of others identity and lost my own. I didn't know who I was as a whole and complete entity all to my own.
Maybe reading 'Codependent No More' would be a good way to spend some of that alone time you have.
L