It occurred to me later that the initial pause, when I decided not to reply-the correct decision-was done for very codie reasons.
Thinking, she should have the money to take care of this!
The healthier reasons, which I didn't think of until I played the tape all the way through, she's an ex, this would be inappropriate, she treated me like a dirtbag, why should I help her?
Oh well, progress, not perfection.