My older one is 9 and he has definitely noticed my drinking in the past. It used to be way messy and out of control. Somehow it has become quieter and more controlled over the years. Just more...concentrated. In that I don't carry on and cry and talk and involve other people and make a spectacle of my drunkeness. I just isolate myself and drink at night after he's sleeping. I have just become very quiet and private about my drinking. So he doesn't really notice that it's stopped.
My daughter is only 1.
I feel bad for my son that it took me this long to start to even truly want to get it together. I also feel greatful for my daughter that I am working on this when she is still so young.
Totally mixed feelings about it.