Originally Posted by
Clean4ever 
..How do you change your behavior regardless of what it is, when its causing you problems? I mean whats your source other than prayer, God and the those things we learn in early recovery..ie sponsor, meetings, etc....Im just asking and would be open to listening to your experience and hopes...
IMO behavior follows spiritual growth like ice follows the flow of water melting around it after a long freeze. As I find myself growing spiritually, I also find my motives change and and my behavior more or less follows my new motives.
So what changes spiritual growth? For me it is the result of many struggle-surrender cycles - See my signature line>