Welcome to the SR family!
We are glad you are here. You will find lots of support and information here.
I understand what it is like living with an active alcoholic. One that promises to cut back, but inevitably fails. The cycle continued and my resentments were mounting.
I was married for 14 years. I was a SAHM for 12 of those years. It took time for me to learn to take better care of myself/children and make some changes.
I found lots of support and wisdom here and at Alanon meetings. I suggest reading in the permanent(sticky) posts at the top of the forum. Those posts contain some of our stories and lots of experience.
here is one of my favorites:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...l-problem.html