catlover - I think the main, and probably quite significant, difference is that her husband denied having a problem and was not willing to fix it.
Everyone keeps telling me and I also realize that only the alcoholic/ drug addict can make the decision to stop abusing.
I think the fact that my husband was able to stay sober for almost 2 years and is back in the program and very serious about it is very crucial here.
You can shake your heads or try to make me believe I'm in denial, but I still have hope we'll go through this and come out victorious.
Jazzman - thank you for the link, it's very similar to what I read in the Alanon booklets and book. I judge by you shaking head that you also don't give my marriage much hope... Sorry to hear that.