Originally Posted by
cutelittlewife 
As for the houseguest - she originally asked if she could live with us for a while. I said yes, I had no idea what a while was. Turned out to be a year, and then she asked if she can stay longer. Sure. She's a young girl fresh out of college trying to start her adult life in a big city. We're trying to help her.
Who is more important at this point in time, your house guest or YOU and YOUR MARRIAGE. Seems like having this house guest present is preventing you from fully addressing the seriousness of the issues facing YOUR marriage.
You said you can't talk openly because she is the operator for information out to the rest of the family and you don't want anyone knowing your problems.
A built in excuse NOT to fully address this issue. I'd be thinking of giving her a couple weeks notice, not a year.