Parentsneedhelp
I am new to the web site but not new to 12 steps or living with an addict, first my husband then my step-daughter. It took me some time but I finally realized that I had no control over their addiction but had control over my own life. It was at this point I had to ask my husband to leave. Basically my mantra became: If you want to live your life with drugs that's ok but it's not a life I want and won't be a part of. No became a big part of my life w/out further explanation.
I can't stand how chaotic my life feels when I'm around addicts/alcoholics so I choose not to be around them. It wasn't easy but Al-anon was a tremendous help.