Originally Posted by skippernlilg

I love ya Rayn, and I know you are talking about your own experience, but I'd also like to add mine.

As a recovering Al-anon, ACOA, I looked back through the years and found out I was always a cheater! Until this current relationship. For the past 10 years, there has been only one man in my life.

I'm not a cheater any more. That's just just not me.

I went to an Al-anon meeting last week and a lady said that she had considered one solution to her live-in alcoholic situation was to cheat. She could find that physical/emotional release, she thought, as she had before, in cheating. Then she reconsidered. I had to smile. I had thought about it too.

I think this situation, after having read these posts, just screams that Mr. ALW was just looking for permission to indulge in his DOC. He found someone who would get high with him. So, he manipulated that person with sex for his high, basically. I do believe his cheating was a direct effect of his addiction.

I know my AB will hang out with anyone who says his drinking is ok. I have to be prepared for the possibility of this same thing happening to our relationship.