CLW, I just want to offer a welcome and send positive thoughts your way.
Boy, we learn a lot really fast sometimes, don't we? Sounds like you have. I "forced" my exabf to go to AA, didn't work. He went, but he started sneaking the drinking. Best thing to happen to me was to learn that no matter what I did, no matter how supportive, or how loving I was, he would make the decision to drink or not all on his own.
I hope that you will read "Codependent No More", it has been helpful to me and many others. I don't relate to everything in the book, but I find a great deal of it thought provoking and life altering. I have also done a great deal of reading the AA Big Book so that I could understand the disease of alcoholism, and that has helped me too.
Please take care of yourself, give yourself time to heal and renew, I pray that your husband will take care of himself as well, and work hard to recover from this terrible disease. And the future is just that...in the future. None of us knows what it will bring. Just do the best you can one day at a time.
My best to you and your family.
