This evening she called from detox to say she is sorry. I reminded her that I have heard that one a million times before. Then she asked if she had to find a new place to live. I didn't give a final answer. Told her that she would have to convince me. I did tell her that I was never living with a drunk again. Ever. "IF" she can convince me I will consider giving her another chance. Maybe. I am not sure yet. Needless to say today was not much fun
I am not criticizing because I totally understand how you feel and why. But I just want to point out to you that conversations about the relationship is how they avoid, deny, and ignore themselves and their behavior, and the alcoholism. And how they place the blame, which is always in their heads, on you and the dynamic between you. You may find it helpful to avoid and even refuse to discuss the topic of the relationship. (((hugs)))