Originally Posted by
ToBeSerene 
We are still together but started counseling this week. But I have someone that is willing to accept alcholism, work his steps and work on our relationship.
Hey there,
ToBeSerene,
Welcome to the Sober Recovery community! This is a great place to share, and to receive.
I understand where you're at in your marriage. For me, my xabf was "trying" but he version did not match up with what mine was. The little, tiniest steps forward just kept me hooked. Ultimately I was a mess and recognized that it was probably never going to be what I wished for.
With my husband, I think if he were to embrace recovery and be "AA Man of the Year" I would have been too far gone, too long without respecting or loving him.
Yes, no one is perfect is certainly true. That's why God created
Boundaries, so that WE can say "this is what's acceptable to me, here's the line".
LaTeeDa is right on the money