Dear Lostfamily
Unfortunately , in my case, my family was right! But yes it sucked . They had to rebrainwash me. I believed that he would be" loved into sobriety". Instead - when given the ultimatum to choose- he chose alcohol and a new enabler he met in rehab (while he had a lovely wife and three beautiful children may I add)
Maybe she will choose recovery. But what you say, do , fight for is not going to change one bit about her choice.
if recovery is not her choice- there will also be resentments because "you made her ".
But yes it sucks. but our families are mostly right (sorry to say) we sometimes need them to break through our denial.
Sorry if I sound negative- my experience only.