We all want to "be there" for our loved ones, but sometimes it comes down to a decision of whether being there for them means putting our on best interests in danger. You can be supportive of his efforts to find help if and when he decides to do that. Until then, there is nothing in the world wrong with taking care of yourself and your own well-being. Whether he decides to embrace sobriety or not, you must decide how to best protect yourself both financially and emotionally.