I found this site today as well as you did, and I do think it was meant to be because not only do I already feel like I am making progress with my own personal needs, I feel like I can help myself more now that there is support and people out there. I didn't fully come to terms with my boyfriends addiction until after last night (new years) a week after he had told me that he was going to stop drinking and what do you know, he just continues on doing it.
I'm so glad I found this site and I hope things start to get better for everyone.