We have been taking some space over the holiday and this week, but I'm still an emotional mess, and we have been texting. Maybe having him move out of our home if he isn't willing to work on things and not contacting him for a while (if I can do it!) would be helpful. My fear is that if he will just move in with the OW, which will not help my emotional state a bit, although it might be good for her to see what she is really getting herself into!