TeM - My XAH was also disabled. My X suffers from progressive eye disease, that left him blind.... and fed his addiction. He turned into an isolated man, with no job and no outside interests, living in a rural environment with no transportation. The poor man couldn't even get his own groceries, how could I leave him? Then I realized that he was ALWAYS able to have his stash of beer.... somehow.... cuz I didn't bring it for him.
I'm sure there are many who think I am a heart-less biotch. I can't say that I don't get upset when I think of that.... and how I would like to face them and defend myself. But they are satisfied with half the story, and I don't need to waste my time on them.
My daughter and I are much happier and living full lives. My X is still living in his own little hell and feeling sorry for himself.
Take care of you!