Originally Posted by
StarCat 
His family has been very supporting (again, excluding his mother), and many of them are actually asking me about my future plans and whether or not I'll stick around. Apparently being around me in the beginning "fixed" this drinking problem of his for awhile (2 years), and he stopped trying to control their lives (and hadn't started to try and control mine yet), and they thought that little old me had cured it, but it's back with a vengeance now.
This is a major red flag for me, but I'm completely remembering the beginning of my relationship with XAH. His family was soooooo happy that I was having a 'settling down' effect on him. Do not stick with this guy just because some one else thinks you're good for him. (Not saying that would be the reason if you did, but... Don't let it be the
only reason.) A relationship is a two way street, he needs to be able to fully participate in it as a partner.