thanks again everyone. I am really struggling with this. I question myself so much, she sent me a few emails after I told her I was done communicating with her on a personal level, telling me she loved me and I"m misconstruing what she said, that she was just mad.
I will not allow myself to be sucked back into this. , which we usually said to each other anyway, but to me it's another huge red flag. I'm sad, but observing myself and my impulses, which are to just try to patch things up with her. That whole try to figure out who is crazy and who is not thing is a real hook for me. But I think I've learned my lesson, thank you.
In the past, she has been able to look at her behavior, but only after horrible fighting, screaming and meltdown. I'm not her freaking therapist!