her behavior sounds bizarre, transform.
it must be so difficult to deal with someone like this. i mean, you wait for the next bomb to drop on you.
i wonder if she has a personality disorder. yes, narcissistic or borderline.
i think there is a web site called "out of the fog".
FOG - Fear Obligation and Guilt you feel when dealing with her.
Typically, they think everyone else is wrong and will not get treatment. If they do seek treatment, it is a long and arduous task, with a lot of failures.
Keep your life to yourself, as you see, she will use it against you.
What a shame transform, I hope you can replace her some way.
Beth