hi rhode-
i think you are about to discover how resourceful an alcoholic can be.
it would be wise to take all credit cards, check books and store them at your work.
if you have any valuables, like jewelry, watches or anything that can be pawned easily, you might want to take those off-site also.
you might want to alert family and friends to not lend her money.
i would also be on the alert for credit cards taken out in your name without your knowledge.
and what's to stop her from going into the bank with id and withdrawing money from your joint account? or withdrawing money from the children's bank accounts?
i disagree with your "hope" statement. i think it is better to deal with reality. and reality is that alcoholics cannot limit their drinking to two bottles of wine a week. that only gives them the taste for more and once they get a bit of alcohol, they are off and running.
sorry to be the bearer of bad news.
naive