one of the consequences of active addiction is that people, even people who really love you get fully fed up.It is a disease, BUT that doesn't mean you have to stand around and watch. Loving detachment..letting her go on her own journey can help.Only you can say what your boundaries are..when my daughter was in active addiction I didn't want to have no contact with her, but I did have minimal contact. We really couldn't have an authentic relationship anyway, but I wanted her to know I loved her and would support her in recovery..have you gone to alanon? It really helped me.