Helping her feel better about herself while she lives in a way that is destroying her hurts her more than helps her.
i do believe this.
i am too scared for me and her to do anything about it
i try to give the benefit that she is/will-be making positive changes and get concerned this is the wrong time to leave.
i think this may have become such an issue again for me because i got so close to making a change, i got right to the edge, but stepped back to let it seem that everythnig is ok for now.
chino- yes, it does