Foreverchanged,
IMHO I believe that seeing his daughter will not motivate him. I think that is wishful thinking. The only thing that will motivate him is his willingness and wanting to change for himself. After all, he cant do it for someone else. I would take all the time you need to make your decisions. I know how it is to be so indecisive, not knowing what is right, what is wrong, but I believe also, that deep down....we really do know! Its just doing it that is the hard part. Stay strong Sister!