Old 12-09-2010, 08:22 AM
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Originally Posted by StandingbyHIM View Post

He says I'm the only one that believes in him and his path to recovery
and That while we were broke up last year, he did nothing but screw up And it was because we were apart. He says he "needs me" and "misses me".
This is called " the hook".

He is not taking responsibility for himself and instead projecting his outcomes on you.

He's a convicted felon, on a leg monitor, has no car and no job. I suspect you have not been convicted of a crime, have not done time in prison, have a car and a job. Of course he misses and needs you.

What exactly makes you believe that being needed by someone who is not willing to take responsibility for himself, who lies and hurts you, is a healthy foundation for a relationship?

I don't know you yet I do know you deserve to treat yourself better than this.
I mean no snark here when I ask if you have considered getting a dog who needs you and unlike this guy, is not going to use, lie or hurt you?
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