it is pretty common in early recovery, it may seem as your being "left on the shelf" its good you understand he has to work on himself, but there is time for "others" to be considered by him, sit him down and reinforce how pleased you are the way he is moving forward, but express that "you have needs" as well and both need to support each other, plus part of his growth will be transforming from being "inconsiderate" to consideration of others, ie his close ones, hope that helps a little