I'm not the one to ask really Ainslie.
I spent years wishing my parents were different. They probably think the same about me...but the point is they're never going to give me the kind of relationship I want and, more to the point, in my case they're toxic with it....not deliberately I don;t think - they just do not get me on any level.
I spent nearly 30 years as the human pretzel tying myself in knots trying to please them.
No more.
I know I'm a good guy and I know I've done more than I should have to try and make this work, but it's difficult when the other side doesn't even think there's a problem.
I still call them - we still see each other a few times a year - but I relaise now I love my parents but I don't always like them, and that's ok.
I detached, and moved away - and I'm better for it.
Not sure any of this helps you to be honest LOL but - maybe wait til you get home - see if the distance helps clarify things - then do what you know is right for you.
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